QUESTION 1

“There exists deep in myself a yearning for the permanency of love. Is that stupid?” 

ANSWER

…Just a few days ago, a man and woman came to me and said they wanted to live together. My suggestion was that they should live separately and continue to meet. But lovers are lovers-fools are fools. That's why it is called "fooling around"! They wanted to live together. The woman even put it in writing, that "We will never separate, and I promise. And we are absolutely certain that we want to live together, twenty-four hours a day together." So I said, "Okay, then it is up to you." 

And not two months have passed, and yesterday I received the woman's letter saying, "We want to separate." Just two months! She has forgotten that she has written, "We will never separate," that "We will always live together." 

It happens to everybody. This is an illusion, a mirage. And you want to make a mirage permanent? How can you make a mirage permanent? How can you make a dream permanent? The morning will come and you will have to wake up. And once you wake up you can close your eyes again and go on trying to find the dream, where it has gone. You want to continue it, but you cannot continue the dream again. It is lost forever. Once you are awake it is broken forever; you cannot find the thread again. It is un-mendable, remember. 

You cannot mend a broken love-a broken mirror, maybe. Ways can be found: it can be again melted and again it will be one. But a broken love ... there are no ways, no possibilities. Hence the fear. The fear shows that deep down you are aware it is slipping out of your hands, so you want to make it permanent. Now the way is to go to the court and get married. These are the ways to make it permanent. Make it a legal phenomenon so that the court and the police and the magistrate and the law and the state will hinder in every possible way. If you want to separate they won't allow you to separate. 

It is good that this woman has given it in writing to me, not to the court! She need not be worried-the day she gave it to me I threw it away because I know there is no point in keeping it-sooner or later it is going to end. And I don't want her to feel embarrassed! I have thrown it. She can separate... but she will do the same thing again, that is the problem. And you believe me, she can write it again, just after two months. 

Now she wants to be absolutely alone; she does not even want to live with anybody-finished! She is awakened! But this will happen again and again. At least a few times more it is going to happen, because I can hear her snoring so I know she will dream again! No dream can be permanent, and your love is a dream. And mind can only dream; it cannot give you the reality. 

Get out of the mind. Forget all about love. You don't have any understanding of love-you can't have any understanding of love. Only through meditation will you change the dimension of your being. From the horizontal you will become vertical. From living in the past and the future... Now, why this permanency? Permanency means you are trying to figure it out even in the future. You want it to remain as it is even in the future-but why? In fact, it must already have flown away; then only one starts thinking about permanency. When two lovers are really in the illusion they don't think about permanency. Ask any two lovers in their honeymoon days-they don't care. They know that they are going to be together forever. But the moment it starts slipping out of your hands, then the mind says, "Now cling. Make it permanent. Do everything to make it permanent. Don't look at the cracks that are happening. Don't look, avoid, forget all about them. Go on covering them up-somehow manage it." But you are asking for the impossible. I can teach you meditation, and out of meditation a different quality of love will happen. Then it is not fooling around. Then it is wisdom, not foolishness. Then you don't fall in love, you rise in love. Then love is a quality to you. Just as light surrounds a flame, love surrounds you. You are loving, you are love. Then it has eternity. It is unaddressed. Whosoever comes close to you will drink out of it. Whosoever comes close to you will be enchanted by it, enriched by it. A tree, a rock, a person, an animal, it does not matter. Even if you are sitting alone... Buddha sitting alone under his tree is radiating love. The love is continuously showering around him. That is eternal, and that is the real longing of the heart. Don't misunderstand it-but mind can only misunderstand. Understanding is possible through meditation alone.

Osho, Guida Spirituale